How to: be grateful

Optimism isn’t always easy. When you’ve had a day where everything seems to move against you and you have forgotten exactly what it’s like to feel powerful, or together, or cheerful…

That’s the most important time to work on it.

As I just said to Karen, if you’re sinking into despair, try writing a list of things you’re grateful for.

Start small. What’s your favourite thing to have for breakfast? The feeling of sliding into fresh sheets and going to sleep, the movie which will always make you smile? The smell of your moisturiser or your favourite shower gel?

Think about the people around you, the people you can laugh with, the people who understand you, who share your interests and who know and accept you.

Make a list, not just in your head but somewhere you can refer back to. In a notebook or somewhere online, where you can start adding up these little things and these precious people and then hopefully the list will start to grow.

As you think of things you love and enjoy, hopefully more things will spring to mind: the smell of fresh laundry, sun kissed and aired, the lyrics of a song that makes you feel stronger, projects you can finish or do with a friend, buying fish and chips for dinner instead of cooking. Watching cute cats or music videos or something from a comedy channel on youtube, singing out loud and finding a recipe that you love.

Breathe deeply and look over your list, read it again.

Keep doing it until you feel calmer, and then do it again tomorrow. The next day too. It gets easier and easier, I promise you.

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(photo by me, sunset from up on Boomrock)

Things I Love Thursday

It’s been another lovely sunny week and people are still surprised that we’re getting a proper summer but I’ve relaxed into it I think. Sitting in the sun with my feet in the paddling pool and a bottle of alcoholic ginger beer is a good way to spend an afternoon, I must say.

Happy Valentines Day to all my lovely readers. I have a few pictures for you today…

Body shop dragonfruit lip butter


It’s a simple thing, but finding a lip balm that really works is an amazing thing. I only need to use this once every couple of fays and my lips stay smooth and nourished and lovely. Plus it smells awesome.

This valentine’s message from Lush:

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The thing with Valentines Day is that it only has to be commercialised if you, well, buy the commercial products associated with it. Today I drew valentines on post its and gave them to my workmates, exchanged lovely messages with darling friends of mine and dressed up pretty. Just a couple of ways you can celebrate love and caring about other people without giving the Hallmark company a cent.

My Valentines Day outfit:


Honourable Mentions: Skype dates, the postal service, compliments, alcoholic ginger beer, looking forward to a lovely new flatmate, re-watching my Harry Potter blu-rays, sleeping soundly, loving acceptance from nowhere, clean pyjamas, laundry (still), Mumford & Sons, reading excellent books and my rainbow unicorn pendant.

Meeting Alan Davies

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Okay so this was one of those times where I failed to be cool, calm and collected in the face of someone famous. People off TV are impressive because you see them and in your head you go “Oh my god, he looks just like he does on TV” and then without even realising it you’re actually shaking and then they look up at you and out loud you just kind of laugh all high and breathy and say “I just love you so much!” and the famous person nods because they’ve heard this a thousand times and you realise you’re going to be lumped in with a thousand other identical fan experiences from the celebrity’s point of view so you try and think of something unique and witty to say.

So you tell them that you were the one who yelled something out during the show and they made fun of you for eating an ice cream, and then the celebrity’s like ‘oh, well, good for you’ and then you have to spell your name and they sign it and you’re rude to keep on talking to them, or take too many photos.

Anyway. It was cool, and he seemed like after doing two hours of stand up like maybe he didn’t really want to keep on talking which I understand.

The up shot is I have another book signed by the author and that makes me happy.

Things I Love Thursday

Compliments! Who doesn't love a compliment? I have been complimented on two things this last week which have made me very happy. 1. My singing voice. Steve said he thought it had levelled up, or… something. Anyway, it was improved he said and I'm proud of that. 2. The newsletters I write for work. Complimented by someone in the biz even, from a whole nother website, heh.

❤ Pink Smog by Francesca Lia Block. The book about Weetzie Bat before she was Weetzie. Excellent, excellent stuff about being 13, love it.

❤ Clean things XD Okay so I am still mildly obsessed with laundry. But the weather hasn’t been so good this week soo…. I’ve had to clean things inside the house, which is still good actually.

❤ Paddling pool!


Honourable Mentions: Trips to the beach, snuggling under the covers and falling asleep, dreaming, getting things done, a nice healthy lunch, soft fuzzy soft toys, new Face-Off episodes, getting paid, bright colours, late Christmas presents, excellent roleplaying and truly connecting with someone.

Please share your own list below, mine feels a little short this week, heh.